Wednesday, February 16, 2011

this is why we fight.

On Monday I reported to you that I had made a complaint to the authorities regarding what was published in that "family" magazine. I commented that we are fighting like hell to keep our gay youth ALIVE and that kind of bullshit is responsible for letting our youth down, making them feel less than another person. Less worthy of love, less worthy of a family.

And the very next day a beautiful young friend of mine, a friend for almost ten years, a friend who was finally transitioning from female to the male he truly always has been, took his own life.

A truly bright and wonderful soul has been taken from us and ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. You are NOT LESS THAN ANOTHER PERSON. You are worthy of love, you are worthy of passion, you are worthy of a family and a good life.

If you are reading this, join the fight against discrimination against and hatred of the GLBTIQ community. Because I want my dear G to be the last to lose this fight. I do not want another single death recorded. You can stand up and be counted.

This is why it is so important to join the fight for equal rights. Granting things like gay marriage IS important. Not necessarily because all gays want to marry (I am sure G never would have bought into a traditional convention like that!) but because it says "We are equal. We are just as deserving of a loving commitment as you are". And the louder we say that, the more voices that join us, the more able we are to drown out those who seek to put us down.

The louder we are, the more those vulnerable members of our community can hear us, can be heard, can live strong.

G - may you find the peace in death that you never found in life. Rest in peace dear heart.


  1. Oh wow - thank you for posting and I'm gutted for G and for you and for all the people who loved him and all the youth who will be even more despondent now.
    You are right, this has got to stop. We'll keep on fighting til the end.

  2. when i said wow - it wasn't a good wow, it was a sad and sorrowful wow - just wanting to clarify.
    Could someone put up a tribute on his facebook page? I clicked over and there was no info at all. It would be good to honor him like this maybe?

  3. Oh God. No. I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend. When will the world decide we can't live this way?

    Many hugs

  4. I am so, so sorry for you and your friend ... what a senseless loss. *hug*

  5. I'm so very sorry to hear about your friend. My thoughts and prayers are with you and G's friends and family. This is so tragic. Keep up the fight - you have to...

  6. I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend. Hugs...

  7. Claire - he was a very private person, at times almost reclusive, and his page is privatised. It is flooded with messages of love at the moment :)

    We've seen public tribute pages receive some horrible trolls saying some hideous things, so I highly doubt that there will be a public one made, but thank you so much for the thought.


  8. how so sorry.

    i really dont understand the issues about two people of the same sex marrying - i truly dont.

    for me the only requirement for marriage is that two people love each other. thats it. their sex, their nationality, the colour of their skin - who cares, as long as there is love.

    love doesnt see sex, it just sees the person - the sooner everyone understands this the better.


  9. I'm so sorry for your loss.
    I FERVENTLY agree with everything you've written here. So many people miss the point that not HAVING the choice to get married or be otherwise accepted on the basis of who you choose to share your life with is DEMORALISING in the extreme.
    In the UK, civil partnership has been legal for some years, but they are now 'upgrading' it to make gay marriage legal. GOOD!



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