Monday, May 24, 2010

Reflections and Good News

Look at me posting twice in one day.

That last entry was hard for me to write and I had to hit publish straight away before I lost my nerve and deleted the whole thing. But the fact is I have memory problems and the more I have written down the better, for me to go back and look at.

After calming down and talking to Mim about everything, I can see things more clearly. My meltdown's over his behaviour come generally because of silly little things - tonight it was because we were told that he was making kids cry at after school care because he was playing handball and basically being a little Franco (dictator) about "his" rules because it was his ball and he was being over the top bossy. And when one of the carers confronted him about it apparently he lost his shit and started yelling at her, which I will. not. tolerate. I raised him better than that, to have more respect than that.

But after some quiet reflection tonight, I know three things.
(1) I have a tendency to over react
(2) I was a bossy ass kid too who had few friends until I grew up a bit in high school
(3) He is not a "bad" kid, and I need to remember it could be worse and this too shall pass.

He actually reminds me of a mixture of me as a child and my childhood best friend. My best friend was universally disliked by all the teachers for being a smartass and disruptive, but he has turned out ok in the most part. I was quiet and teachers loved me but other kids, not so much, because I was so bossy.

I have decided to take a step back and not go mental every time he does something. He is an 8 year old boy after all. I need to just focus on loving him and helping him where I can, and letting go and letting God in other respects. He is on a limited diet to help control his behaviour, and I think its time to take him to the naturopath to see if theres something more we can do.

He is a lovely big brother and generally a good boy and I love him. I just hope he outgrows this stage! I just need to keep repeating my mantra - I love my family, I can do this! Look at them, they are worth it!

On a happy baby note - I have a scan on Thursday to check that everything's where it should be and whatnot. Three more sleeps...I am bloated as all get out and definitely feeling pregnant so fingers crossed it's all good news.

Speaking of good news - I am celebrating twice as hard for my very good friend who has just got her BFP after almost 3 years of trying! Now if my other bestie would get her BFP (due to test next week) it will be like winning a trifecta - I can't imagine anything better than going through it all with two of my most special friends - 3 IVF BFPs can you imagine anything better?


  1. Cld your kiddies and family be any more beautiful? <3 yay for the awesome news on your betas!! I don't login on the weekends and missed it! Super excited for you!! Lot of sticky vibes and hope things with your son start to even out. Xo

  2. hope your scan goes well and fingers crossed for 3 IVF BFPs:)

  3. Such lovely pictures babe, and sending lots of luck to your other friend too :)

    Such good things, I love reading good things!

  4. I love your pictures! they are so sweet!:)
    Congrats on your BFP!!! and I am crossing my fingers for your second best friend joining the IVF-BFP club next week. How amazing it would be for all three of you to be in this together.

    Thanks for stopping by my blog and thanks for the kind words!
    Happy ICLW

  5. My son is only 3 1/2, but I can completely identify! Already I see the silly parts of him that will likely get him in trouble in school. I wonder, maybe the structure of education is wrong?! I have more and more of an appreciation for Montessori education, where kids can be individuals.

    I will keep my fingers xx'd for good things this week ... thanks for stopping by and happy ICLW (#149)! :)

  6. All 3 BFFs pregnant at the same time would be completely and totally *awesome*. I'm glad your pregnancy is progressing nicely. :) Can't wait to hear the good news about the scan!

    ICLW #9

  7. He's 'that age'. My sister is coming up for 9 and she is a HORROR. Not quite old enough to be responsible and too old to still be cute.

  8. Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving me such a nice comment.

    I will be following - can't wait to see what happens with your oh so cute family!!!

  9. Hi Suzy,

    Just stopped by to say thanks for visiting my blog! Aren't WW cookbooks great? You can totally rely on them - everything is tested so thoroughly, and everything works.

    That would be AWESOME to have a BFP trifecta!! Keep us posted. and best of luck for your scan.

  10. Don't be so hard on yourself on your little rant this morning. You've been through a whole lot lately, and not to sound like an ass, but you probably have pregnancy hormones bouncing around too.

    Lots of congrats to you and your friends (emphasis on the plural, as I hope bestie #2 gets her BFP), and I hope that scan and doc appointment goes well.

  11. Congrats on the recent BFP! And, I hope the trifecta happens. That would be amazing!

    Sorry your 8-your old is tormenting you a bit. That sounds challenging.


  12. thanks for stopping by.

    love your photos.

    i'm sure you're an awesome mummy!

    hoping to hear great news :)

    jos (ICLW)

  13. Congrats on your BFP!!!! So exciting. Praying for the trifecta. ;)



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